Looking at the mystery & Seeing the magic!

"With great power comes great responsibility" - Spiderman I realized the meaning of this statement only recently. As a normal human being I never had any super power. Or so I thought. I came across a situation recently which made me realize my power. And to say that it has been an eye opener would be an under statement. Recently, what may have looked like a trivial incident for me apparently triggered a lot of emotions in a person who witnessed that incident. As part of the conversation with him, I realized that, he has kept me in a much higher pedestal. And for him, seeing me handling this situation in a certain way shackled up his image about me, because he had expected me to handle this in a different way. While I did acknowledge that I could have handled the situation better and mentioned that I have given myself that feedback immediately after that incident, I did feel that i have triggered a lot of anger in him. As part of the conversation, he said

After a small argument the other day between me and my mom, as I settled down with a cup of tea, I heard my mom mumbling "I don't think you appreciate what I do...I have this constant feeling". Needless to say, I was hurt. Not because she said this. Because, I got in touch with my inability to express my love the way she expects. This made me introspect and observe within and around me. I am able to feel the love all the time from me for me. Similarly, I am able to feel the love for me from other people. But, whenever I feel someone doesn't love me is a direct conclusion of me judging that person based on that person's actions & non-actions, words & silence. Which compels me to ask these questions: 1) Is the love we feel for us and others equivalent to the love we express? 2) What is the "right" way of expression? 3) What is the "benchmark"? 4) While the way I may express love for each one around me would be different,